Like Cassie, I am getting married in a few months. I got engaged a couple of weeks ago and I will be married before the end of April. Wow! Wow...
I have to admit... through the excitement I am feeling, I am also kind of scared. Like most of us here, I grew up through my parents' multiple marriages and subsequent divorces. As I got older and had my own relationships, they all ended not because of a lack of feelings or care for them but because we had just "grown apart". I would say that this is probably what most people cite as the demise of their relationships, marriages included. I am committing the rest of my life to B, but I think the "I do" is just the first step. So now, I need to figure out what it takes to keep a husband and wife together through the good and the bad, united, yet keeping our own identities. What makes one marriage succeed and the other one fail? I have no clue, but that is what I am going to find out this month. Everyone goes into their marriage with hope and a heart full of love, but I want to go in with all my guns loaded. Ok, that didn't come out right, but you know what I mean. I am doing my marriage homework, starting now.
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I am constantly doing this. I love hearing advice from couples that have been married once, for a long time since I don't have anyone like this in my family. I saw Jeff Bridges being interviewed after he GG win for Crazy Heart, and they were asking him about his marriage, and how it's lasted for over 30 years (you could see the love for his wife when he was on stage). His answer was something like this: Marriage is full of ups and downs and after you overcome each challenge or hurdle, you of course become closer, and the over time, marriage becomes more and more precious and something that you want to protect and fight for. I thought that was a very real and new answer to an old question.
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