In the infamous words of the Princess Bride, “Mawwage is what bwings us togwether today....” All my thoughts are around marriage right now. With a wedding in two months, I am trying to focus not on the details, such as "When is my wedding band going to be done? What shoes will I wear? And what details am I forgetting?" but instead focus on the marriage and what that means to me, but also what does this mean for my fiance. I come from a multiple divorced family, as does my fiancé, and sometimes I think this has really affected how I view love. I don’t have a healthy relationship on which to base my ideas of marriage and I think we both struggle to find our own definition of what our marriage is going to be and how to make sure we have a solid foundation.
We have taken a long and different road in getting to the altar, but I think it was what we both needed and was right for us. I had some growing up to do and he was willing to wait. I am blessed to have found someone who I truly love , admire and enjoy being with, so much so that I am committing to him for life. So for this month, I am going to focus on building a marriage with my fiancé, not just a wedding. I will keep you all posted as we take these steps down the aisle, but more importantly, down our lives together.
I hope that we will be like these two one day...
C, my husband and I can totally relate to "not having role models". Actually I can think of one adult couple that I really look up to, it's both of their second marriage, but hey, who's counting. I wish you and J. the very best!
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