Let the homework begin...
Traci just suggested I read the book The 5 Love Languages that was recommended to her by her pre-marital counselor. I went online to research. The 5 Love Languages are: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service & Physical Touch. They have an assessment online that I was able to get "B" to take with me. It turns out that both of our primary language (by a landslide) is Physical Touch. The site states: This language isn't all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face--they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. After Physical Touch, for "B", receiving Acts of Service (ie cleaning the house, doing the laundry) is the next best language to speak with, which happens to be a way that I speak to himoften. Mostly because if I didn't we would live in filth. But now that I know how important that is to him, I will probably do this with a lot less grumbling and a lot more love. It was pretty much a tie for my next Love Language between Words of Affirmation and Quality Time. Words of Affirmation are something crave, so I wasn't surprised there, but Quality Time was kind of a shocker since I covet my alone time. Although "B" is good on both accounts, it will be interesting to see if he steps it up a bit since learning they are so important to me. Coming in last place for both of us... Receiving Gifts. This is good news as he is hard to shop for and I rarely have any money.
...good to know.
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We read 5 love languages before we got engaged, when we were going through a rough time dating, recommended by a friend. It totally changed our relationship, you will love it!
ReplyDeleteI could stand to blow the dust off my copy as well. It was also given to us at a wedding shower. I was thinking about this book last night as my hubs and I were talking about my resolution to be more loving this month. I kept thinking about the 5 love languages, remembering that we all express love in different ways, and perhaps the things I do that I think are loving is not always what he receives the best. I'm probably Acts of Service and QT and He's Physical Touch and QT.
ReplyDeleteI am going to read this, thanks for the recommendation Ashley.
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