Monday, May 17, 2010
Road Rage…
So while I wait for the Austin Library system to get me my book, my co-worker offered to lend me a book on Spirituality that he really liked, Work as a Spiritual Practice by Lewis Richmond. Now I know what you are thinking, work and spirituality? But as I am going through a career crises anyways, let’s give it a shot. This week, travel, which is fitting as I am traveling to St Louis this week for a brutal three day trip.
First up, my commute. The average American spends 40 minutes each way getting to work, I clock in pretty close at about 30. During this drive, I am guilty of immediately calling someone to talk to, if they don’t answer, I try to listen to talk radio and if that is boring, I put in my iPod at top volume. I always, always, always have some stimulation or noise in my car.
According to Richmond, this is a great time to slow down, let up on the gas, turn the volume off and think. The slower we travel, the less bored we are by listening and seeing more. His advice is to follow a slow car and use this time to really focus on yourself. I have to say, I tried this and liked it. I turned off the cell phone and radio on my way to work this morning and just meandered in getting here. It was far less stressful than the fast lane and it gave me some time to think over the weekend and what I enjoyed as well as what I would be focusing on this week at the office. I have to say, I came in a little more calm then most Monday mornings, which is enough to keep me motivated to try another chapter in the book.
Monday, May 10, 2010
The Prophet
So I noticed things have gotten a little quiet around here, which I am assuming with our fearless leader Ashley busy traveling, maybe that is why. So I am going to take this month’s theme and run with it. I would not say I am a spiritual or religious person. My church experiences were pretty much limited to punishment when I was going through my wild streak as a teenager. My mom decided the only thing to save me was youth groups and Sunday church, which I would often attend after a very, very late night Saturday.
But I am older, and maybe wiser? now so maybe it is time I start focusing on the world around me. To start my travels in spirituality, I am going to read Khalil Gibran’s book, The Prophet. I have never ready anything about him before but it was recommended.
Khalil Gibran was a Christian born in Lebanon in the late 1800’s, who migrated as a child to the United States, landing in Boston. His writing is done through poems, and The Prophet itself consists of 26 poetic essays dealing with love, marriage, laws, passion, teaching, friendship, ect. I have requested the book from the Austin Public Library, so once I get it and I will let you all know my progress!
Monday, April 26, 2010
I bought a house!
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Denial ain't just a river in Egypt...
I need an intervention. A wake up call. I’ve been trying to think of what to write and where to begin but it isn’t coming easy. In simple terms; I like to spend, my husband likes to more, we have no money to spend (two people zero incomes), we live on credit, we buy what we want when we want it, we ignore the problem, our debt is steadily climbing into the six figures and an end isn’t in sight. I don’t know what more to say. I can’t bring myself to look at how bad it really is because it makes me sick to my stomach and keeps me up at night. I need to get a job, but I want to be home with my children right now. So I think I’ll just ignore it some more…
Wednesday, April 14, 2010
Progress Report...
We have our joint checking account set up and debit cards for each of us. We went through the last two months of statements to track where our money goes and total costs for fixed bills. I did notice we go out a lot(!) but since I am not focusing on cutting our budget, I am going to ignore it for now.
Next step, get all the paperwork for automatic withdrawals. I have the paperwork for my paycheck and car payments but there is a lot more we need. I am thinking we should probably send it in all at the same time to prevent some coming from here and some there. Our goal is to get all the paperwork sent and have the mortgage moved over after the honeymoon, May 2nd.
I have been pretty impressed with my husband’s (ekk..still so new) cooperation in this process. I thought he would be a little territorial over his money or dragging his feet to get the process started, but he has been a prince through it so far. Side note: the other day he called our hotel in Hawaii to make a golf tee time and I heard him say. “I will have my wife with me and I would like her to be able to join me for the day” I almost started crying, I am someone’s wife.
Monday, April 12, 2010
"Money often costs too much" ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
After raising my daughter alone and finally becoming successful enough in my field to start my own business, I met my *amazing* husband and became pregnant 4 months after our wedding. At that point, owning my own business meant I would have the flexibility later on of raising our child without being in daycare full-time as my daughter was. Unfortunately, I was put on total bed rest with him at 14 weeks and remained in bed until his birth. Bye-bye business and bye-bye income, I was forced to shut my business down.
As the “breadwinner”, I planned on returning to work after my son’s birth, but unforeseen health problems with him have kept me home for the past 19 months. I don’t see things letting up in the near future, as he remains under a Dr’s care for many issues at this time. My *amazing* husband has a great job, and has been there for 10 years. He makes a respectable salary and if I were working, things would be great. But, we don’t make nearly enough money to live on as family of four and although he sometimes dislikes his job, he is complacent and not planning to a make a move anytime soon.
I have many blessings that I did not before, but it is so very, very hard on me. I want to work. I need the stimulation of a professional environment, not to mention interaction with other people. I want to give my children all of things they want and deserve. I want to know that all of our bills are paid on time, every month and that there is money left over. I want to go shopping just once, just for me. I want to sell my townhome and buy a house with a yard, and give my children room to roam and have friends over without being embarrassed; it’s hard to keep up in this community. I want health insurance for myself. I want to travel again, I haven’t been out of our city in 3 years.
I am making little steps, I have paid off every bit of outstanding debt that we owe (excluding my townhome) in hopes of obtaining a mortgage on one income. My kids are well cared for, we have paid off both of our vehicles. I coupon like a champ and often challenge myself to see how much I can save each week. I remain in contact with many people from my previous industry and make sure to keep our relationships open and friendly. I am exploring options of how to work at home.
My goal for this month…try, try, try not to worry so much. Or find a prescription for Xanax. Just kidding. I am going to try to find a way to generate some more income for our family and hopefully put me, my children and my *amazing* husband just one step further in the right direction.
Friday, April 9, 2010
Two Things
Been awhile...
Vitalize Peel
I went into the dermatologist on Wednesday for the peel. They suggested this day because it is supposed to take approximately 2 days for your face to start peeling. Doing it on Wednesday, will contain the peeling to the weekend and minimize your contact with the public. From my experience, this is more for the public's protection than yours. Unfortunately, I started peeling on Thursday with my heaviest peeling day on Friday. I looked like a freak of nature and on top of that it kind of hurt. It was raw skin where the old skin had peeled off. By Friday, I was convinced they had done something wrong and I was going to be scarred for life. I was never getting a peel again. EVER! I spent most of the day researching my symptoms online looking for other horror stories. Then I woke up Saturday morning and I looked slightly less scary and I was in slightly less pain. THEN I woke up Sunday and I was magically all healed up. I had pretty much finished peeling. My skin was not bright red and raw any longer. I had this beautiful, new, ridiculously soft skin. I loved it. I still do. It is so much softer to touch. It didn't get rid of my sunspots as I had hoped it would but the effects are noticable and I will probably get another one in the fall. The lady that performed the peel suggested I get them once a quarter/season but I am going to skip the summer peel. In the future, I will schedule them for Thursday.
$$$$
Talk of money always makes me anxious. I have always had issues with IT. I think it was last week, an article came out listing Austin as the highest "spending" city in the US. Austin's annual spending is 77% higher than the national average. B and I joked that "our" spending (really HIS) is probably triple that. Even though I laughed at the joke, it is not really that funny. It scares me actually. Over the years, I have cut down on my spending significantly. My god, I could consume! I would shop every week. I would eat out mutliple meals every week. I made a lot of money when I lived in NY and I had a lot of money to burn. But that changed when I had Campbell, and traded in the money for flexibility. My problem was that I didn't change my lifestyle with my pay decrease. I had a good amount of money saved up that is now gone. And with that, my lifestyle was forced to change. I get sick to my stomach sometimes thinking about how much money I wasted away. But all I can do is learn from the experience and hope to never repeat it. Yet... I am marrying a spender. B LOVES to shop. He is the king of the deal. I need to plaster the Suze Orman quote upon his credit cards. I honestly don't know what my goal is this month if any. Again, I get anxious just thinking about it all. I have told B a couple of times that we need to open up a joint account to pay our bills out of and he hasn't met me with much of a response yet. Hopefully we will get that done in the next few months. Other than that, I just don't know. I need to think about it more.
Thursday, April 8, 2010
Mrs. Jones and Me
I have a pretty nice house, but I think I’m house poor. Actually I’m poor poor since neither my husband nor I pull a paycheck, but owning a nice house costs a pretty penny. When I bought the house I was moving from a 600 sq ft co-op that I sold for twice what I paid for it in NYC so one would think that I would make smart decisions with that money. Well I thought I was by just putting it into another house and not spending it…and I sort of did that but a co-op in NYC doesn't have the expenses a big house in the country has. Also, I think it’s given us this feeling that our lifestyle should match the neighborhood. Honestly the amount it costs to heat/cool the house alone is as much as an apartment rental. Then we have the septic that went out a week ago... another $800... As if that weren’t enough now we think we must have grass. We are about to get $5K worth of nice grass and sprinklers put around our pool (another expensive item I had to have when we bought the house). The reason I want this grass is, well, because the neighbor just had her yard done and it looks so nice…and what will she think if she comes over!? The truth is, I’ve done well here not knowing the neighbors for the past two plus years but about four months ago I met a new young mom down the street and she has me going to social functions and book clubs and...buying grass. I know my issues lie far deeper than grass and I’ll get into those later but this whole “keeping up with the Joneses” thing is a true epidemic and I need to resist.
The Budget
I've learned a lot about myself in terms of money since I've been married. In short, money can be an emotional trigger for me while for my husband, it's a simple math. From age 21-31, I was a completely independent working woman with no financial support from anyone. Besides a small credit card debt issue in my early 20's , I never carried debt, and I never went without anything I wanted, to me this was doing well. I think my biggest money flaw before I got married was I was in denial about retirement. It just seems so far away and I thought contributing to my 401K each month was enough. Well I guess that could be enough if I wanted to retire a certain way, but after analyzing our finances together, we both decided we wanted more financial freedom, and the option to retire younger to pursue other interests someday, whether it be travelling or staring a business. Saving and investing more has been an adjustment but I have no complaints, my life is happy and healthy and my husband handles all the money stuff now. We de-brief once a month about how things are going, goals, etc. My husband has read several money books, but I think the one that really changed his life about money was "The Millionaire next door". Ultimately, we've both concluded that our parents didn't teach us much about money, and this is something we can't change, but we can teach ourselves, and our children someday. It's pretty simple, decide what you want, plan for it, and meanwhile don't spend what you don't have.
Monday, April 5, 2010
No more sales
Saturday, April 3, 2010
Happy Blogiversary!
Friday, April 2, 2010
Matrimony and money…
We have also been talking a lot (like months and months) about how to manage our money after the wedding. This was a really big one for us as we are both pretty independent and been managing our own accounts and expenses for quite awhile. I think we have found a good compromise and system to take care of all of the household expenses within our budget but still free up some money for ourselves, with no questions asked. I am sure there will be a few meltdowns along the way, but overall, I am pretty confident we will get through this ok.
So this month, I will be focusing on balancing our household budget with our new and shiny shared checking and savings accounts. I will try to remain calm and not get all crazy over “my” money, because soon it will all be “ours.” I will keep you all posted over the progress we make in the next month in bringing over the mortgage, bills, automatic withdraws and whatnot into one account, exciting stuff, huh?
For all the ladies that have shared homes, I would be interested to know, how do you manage your money for the household expenses?
Thursday, April 1, 2010
I Can't Afford To Fight Aging
So this morning I was “putting on my face” as my Aunt Pat used to call it and I realized that it's time for our month on aging to wrap. Perhaps an appropriate way to end the topic would be to suggest a good way to just hide those circles and lines. Amazing Cosmetics’s Amazing Concealer works for me – blends nicely and hides even better. At $42.00 it is pricey but a little goes a long way and you'll have it for a long time - worth every penny.
I never really heard any of the outcomes for the other facial quests out there – good results? I’m asking for a peel for my upcoming 24th birthday in May (I started counting backwards at 30). I think I’d be much more interested in stopping aging if it didn’t cost so much…which brings us to our April topic, money. I've learned in my counseling classes that even the most reserved clients once given the outlet to talk will open up about even the most taboo topics in their lives...sex, violence...all but one - money. People don't like to talk about their money issues. I don't either but I will. I vow to seriously challenge myself this month…and I’m scared.
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Being Me
Monday, March 29, 2010
Coming Clean-VOGUE
I read this article on the airplane the other day & thought I'd share it with all of you. I put *** around the section regarding aging but, I found the whole article to be very informative & well written.
http://www.vogue.com/feature/2010/03/coming-clean/
With juice fasts and detox diets more popular than ever, Bronwyn Garrity examines their claims in search of the pure truth.Until recently, shunning food while lunching with friends would have been considered odd, if not blatantly eating-disordered. Now, thanks to Gwyneth Paltrow, Donna Karan, and a cultural fixation on environmental toxins, the green-juice power lunch has become fashionable—as long as it’s in the name of “detoxification.”
The urge to cleanse stems from the theory that the body hasn’t adapted to modern life—with its refined sugars and flours, its cocktails and Starbucks lattes, not to mention pesticides, heavy metals, and other gunk we unknowingly imbibe. Juice fasting (with little or no additional food) is believed to rest the digestive system, recharge the organs, and accelerate (sometimes with the help of laxatives) elimination. The goal: a purified body, one free of the toxic buildup blamed for inflammation and chronic conditions such as eczema, asthma, depression, irritable-bowel syndrome, arthritis, heart disease, and even cancer. (Weight loss is just a delightful side effect—further evidence of toxicity shed.)
Though the health claims are unproved, booming sales of detox products suggest people aren’t waiting for clinical studies. With Paltrow’s help, Clean, by Alejandro Junger, M.D., hit the New York Times best-seller list last summer, and his $350 kits (a bevy of all-natural products designed to restore balance and get the bowels moving) sell by the thousands each month. For those short on time, delivery companies like Blueprint Cleanse in New York City and the Red Carpet Cleanses in Los Angeles make juice cleansing and detoxing easier than ever.
Though satisfied cleansers say that they’ve never been so pure (or so thin), doctors’ reactions to news of the growing market range from skepticism to alarm. “What frightens me is that because [the products] don’t go through the FDA, they not only have never bothered to demonstrate efficacy but they really don’t test for safety,” says Michael Gershon, M.D., a Columbia University professor who has spent his career researching all things related to the digestive system.
Gershon warns that overuse of laxatives, even all-natural movers like senna, can over time damage crucial nerve cells and in extreme cases result in a bowel that stops functioning and requires surgery. An equal risk may come from attempting to purify your system by pushing too much fluid through your gut and disrupting the balance of electrolyte salts, which can cause diarrhea and dehydration.
Here is where the science stands on a few other common cleansing claims:
You’ll rid your body of a lifetime of toxic chemicals. . . .
It turns out your body is amazingly adept at dealing with foreign substances. “If you eat something the body interprets as toxic,” Gershon says, “the liver gets rid of it. If it’s water-soluble, the kidney pumps it out.” Furthermore, toxins the body can’t quickly eject on its own (like heavy metals and PCBs) reside not in the colon but in fatty tissues like the brain—meaning all the juice and laxatives in every health-food store on the planet won’t flush them out.
You’ll drop two dress sizes. . . .
Detox cleansers boast spectacular weight loss in just a few days or weeks. Yet quickly shedding pounds may actually be a sign your body is burning muscle, not fat. Without enough protein, the body turns to muscle for fuel after about three days, which can make weight loss appear more dramatic because of muscle’s bulk. Making matters worse for cleansers who are really dieters, losing muscle mass will slow your metabolism; a return to solid food is a return to your original weight . . . and then some.
***You’ll look ten years younger***
The upside of pumping gallons of water and vitamin-rich juice into your system—and eliminating stressors like sugar, caffeine, and alcohol—is that it will plump skin, resulting in the celebrated cleansing glow, says Joseph Greco, M.D., assistant clinical professor of dermatology at UCLA. The downside is that the boost may be short-lived. And over time, a low-calorie cleanse (coupled with laxative use) can rob your body of hydration and nutrition, resulting in volume loss in the skin and the very thing cleansers are trying to avoid: wrinkles.
You’ll experience euphoria. . . .
Some detoxers describe feelings of intense joy on the more spartan diets, such as the Master Cleanse. But according to Emeran Mayer, M.D., director of the UCLA Center for Neurovisceral Sciences & Women’s Health, all animals have endorphin systems to ease trauma. That euphoria may actually be a sign the body thinks it’s starving and is trying to prevent suffering. “Animals that have stopped eating are ready to die,” he says.
Your brain fog will lift without coffee. . . .
Oxygenated blood pushes into the brain through capillaries so narrow they admit only one red blood cell at a time. Eating too much fat and sugar clogs capillaries, resulting in lethargy and forgetfulness. Vitamin-rich juices may increase blood flow to the brain, helping to explain why people report feeling more alert. But you don’t need to starve to feel quick-witted: Recent studies have found that just eating more whole fruits and veggies and eliminating junk foods may trigger brain cell growth in a few months.
You’ll cure chronic diseases. . . .
Perhaps the most outlandish claim—that you can reverse diseases—is the one that has the most science behind it. Studies suggests that heart-disease patients who eat more vegetables and fruit may begin to lower high cholesterol and blood glucose levels in a little more than a month. The catch: You can’t go back to your old ways after three weeks of clean living or the benefits will be lost.
Image & Article from VOGUE
Friday, March 26, 2010
I'm _____ years old
Jillian, you salty siren…
So this is kind of off topic, but it does make my bones ache so I thought I would write about it. I have started Jill’s 30 Day Shred. For those who haven’t heard of it, Jillian Michaels is a trainer on the Biggest Loser and her workout DVD is popular on the bridal and spring break circuit. I am convinced that she is trying to kill me in 5 minute intervals.
I started it this week with my “break” days being yoga class. Her workout consists of at 3-2-1 plan, 3 minutes Strength, 2 minutes Cardio and 1 minute abs. You repeat this for 20 minutes and do a cool down, easy peasy right? I can do anything for 20 minutes. WRONG!! I can barely walk or sit down, my thighs are screaming in pain and it hurts to raise my arms. The worst part is the actual work out. After about 8 minutes I am huffing and puffing and after 12 I am yelling out loud like a body builder. I have had to banish Jason from the house during these workouts because he can’t stop giggling at my poor performance. The good news is, it is working! I am feeling stronger in just 1 week and a smidgen trimmer too. I plan on following this through at least until the wedding and maybe if I am motivated until the honeymoon in late April.
Does anyone else have experience with this workout plan? Or thoughts on dropping a few pound in a few weeks without drastic diet changes?
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Not So Sunny Spots
This is not my topic. It should be but it isn’t – I just don’t care that much about aging…yet. The truth is that now that I don’t have to face my biggest critic anymore – Granny – I don’t have my flaws pointed out that much. Thanks to her I have always been good at moisturizing and we did go through a big challenge of getting my sun spots on my forehead cleared before my wedding but other than that I do nothing.
So I don't feel like I add much to the blog this month but Ash asked me the other day what I did to get rid of the spots so I can give the run down from that experience because it seemed to work. Here is what we did, and it was pricey. We started with the dermatologist – he prescribed Tri-Luma and I started to notice a very slight difference with a couple of weeks. Next I had a combined laser/microderm “Skin Rejuvenation” treatment from American Laser Centers – I was already going there for hair laser (which DOES NOT WORK, at least on me) and they offered a deal on the facial. I think I noticed the most after that. I went back to the derm and he did his own laser treatment that I didn’t see much from and then I had 3 microderms. All of this happened within about 6 months. The final result was very good and I do still have damage there but it is not so Gorbachev looking and I’ve been v. v. v. good about sunscreen on my face ever since – the body not so much.
So that is the only time I’ve ever visited a dermatologist or cared very much about my skin – that was 4 years ago. Now I have this red spot under my right eye that looks like a broken capillary and when I don’t have make-up on my son says “oh boo boo mommy I kiss it” so I know another visit to the derm is in order…maybe I’ll go.
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Miss Congeniality
Aging is something that I’ve never grasped. I had to “grow up” at a very young age because of life circumstances and unfortunately, I looked like a grown up at a very young age. I am now dealing with a daughter who looks 18 at age 12. Thankfully, I kept her mental age at 12 as well but I am now responsible for impressing my ideology about aging upon her.
Though I do secretly adore when she tells me how young I am and how pretty I am compared to the other parents of her friends and when strangers remark that we could be sisters, it also starts up my reflections on the long road it took to get where we are now and the fact that I have a very little one to raise in her very big (and admirable) footsteps. You can see in my photo just how incredible she is.
I wash my face, I brush my teeth, I eat pretty well. I have no health problems and I am not overweight. I drink too much caffeine and wine, I have 13 year old stretch marks and I unsuccessfully tried to dye my hair red and it’s now a lovely shade of white zinfandel. I try to exercise, but I suck at it. I stay up too late and I get up too early.
But, I have two children who I can’t wait to wake up every morning just to hear them say “Hi, Momma” and I love spending time with my baby boy and hearing all of the wonderful details about my daughter's day at Middle School. And, finally, after all these years I have a husband who adores me and tells me so. So, I’ll keep washing my face, and doing what I do because the only part of aging that matters to me is keeping the smile on my face.
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
My Routine
Here it is:
I have been using Retinol .5 for a year or so now and love the effects it has had on my dark spots. They have lightened considerably but not as quickly as I would like! When I went to the derm consult she recommended to stay on the current course I am on. I also use Kinerase but use different products than Shelly.
For eyes: Under Eye Rescue. I have noticed a pretty big difference in my puffiness and dark circles. Even though I always feel tired, I don't seem to always look it.
Also side note: I read recently that when applying eye cream, place directly under the eye but when applying above the eye just put it on your bone directy above your eyelid and it will seep down naturally. The skin there is so sensitive, putting it on directly is too much for it.
For face: Brightening Serum and also the Cream. Along with the face wash as well. They have the Cream with an SPF which I will buy next as soon as this container is finished.
All the products contain N6-furfuryladenine which is a powerful natural antioxidant that helps protect DNA and proteins from oxidative damage caused by free radicals. It is still pretty new to products so the jury is still out on whether it works topically but I am definitely noticing a difference in my skin since I started using it a little over a month ago.
Two random applications that I don't consistently perform are: In the winter, if my skin is feeling particularly dry or it is cold, I slather on Aquaphor before bed. In the summer, if I feel like I have been in the sun too much, I slather on pure Vitamin E oil before going to bed. Both applications leave my skin ridiculously soft when I wake up, but they are so heavy that I don't do this regularly.
Next up...
My Vitalize Peel. I am kind of nervous but every review I have read has been very positive. I am just really nervous about layers of my face peeling off. I am going to go ahead and hopefully book my appt for next week. I want to have plenty of recovery time before Cassie's wedding!! And my own...
(If I am brave enough, I will post Before-During-After pictures!)
Monday, March 15, 2010
Headed to My Dermatologist
Ode to Youthful Energy
My father always says age is in your mind and even as he turns 65 and the arthritis seeps into his bones he gets up super early every day and jumps right into the day head first exercising, gardening, playing with his dog. He gets it from his mother – and really this post is a tribute to her – my grandmother, the ageless beauty. She passed away 3 days after my son was born and it was one of the most devastating days of my life. She was 87 going on 27. My entire life people mistook her for my mother. Yes I strongly resembled her but she also just looked so young and she made it seem so natural. I know of trips to the Dr. for B12 shots or a little botox here and there but really I think the secret to her beauty was her boundless energy. She couldn’t sit still – she worked at her gallery all day M – F, she hosted elaborate openings and entertained clients late at night and on weekends she would brunch and shop. She was also a firecracker and kind of scary (I think Shelly can attest to this ha ha), but all of that energy that she put out there was like the fountain of youth for her. She was diagnosed with cancer in 2006 and when she finally had to give up working every day she started to deteriorate to her passing. Now with two kids I am exhausted, yet when I have that extra hour to nap I never take it. I just like to go and hopefully I’ll continue to go for a long long time. In my teens I jokingly started to call her “Granny” to annoy her and when my young cousins were growing up they picked it up – she may not have ever forgiven me for that but she laughed about it. Here’s to my Granny – I love you.
And now for my challenge…I realize it is almost half way into the month but I actually started this already… tackling the drawer. Granny was always in my business, which included keeping up with my looks. On our weekends together I was lucky enough to piggyback onto some of her facial appointments at some of the best places in NYC – Ling, Mario Bedescu. And at those appointments we almost always bought the moisturizer, tonic, spray. It all went into my drawer and I really never used any of it religiously. I’m not good at keeping a beauty regime – I sleep in my make-up from the day. So I’ve started washing my face at night instead of just when I shower and following up with a good moisturizer - the Ling Collagen Cream has a very clean scent and does leave my skin feeling moist in all the right places without feeling greasy. And hey, its claim of fighting wrinkles is an added bonus. I also have a Kiehls Creamy Eye Treatment with Avocado that I try to put on my puffy eyes every morning. It is a routine I have to stick with and so far so good. More reports from the drawer to come…
Friday, March 12, 2010
spf 100
Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Growing Old Gracefully is an Oxymoron
Monday, March 8, 2010
Old Age, From Youth's Narrow Prism--NY Times
For age is opportunity no less
Than youth itself, though in another dress,
And as the evening twilight fades away
The sky is filled with stars, invisible by day.
Friday, March 5, 2010
Raw Food Diet = The Anti-Aging Diet
ZZZzzzzzzz
I’m going on at least my seventh consecutive day of 3 or less hours of sleep. Talk about aging…the bags under my eyes could rival Benicio del Toro’s any day. I assure myself that it won’t be much longer but then I read articles about how mothers are still not sleeping with a 9-month-old and that’s 4 months away! It is a good thing that you conveniently forget these hard early months or I might not have had this one. I definitely collected quite a few more wrinkles after I went through this with my son over 2 years ago so I’m not looking forward to really analyzing the affects number 2 is having. I used to say sleep was over rated and “you’ll sleep when you’re dead” as I went on a week long bender of being out all night and getting up early for work. It seemed worth it then. Now I don’t know how I functioned. I guess I didn’t have to run, jump, slide, make paper hats and pb&js all day back then…but then again I am also noticing how less resilient I am now. Last night was the first night of my tough love approach at getting baby girl to sleep longer hours at night. First step was getting her in her crib and out of my bed. She’s still asleep in there now so I call that a success. Next step will be pushing my response time further… I’ll get back to you all on the aging once I’ve had a little more sleep!
Thursday, March 4, 2010
Green Beauty Goddess in Training
Aging. Getting older freaks me out - I miss my fun, carefree 20’s. I like to think that I don’t really look 35 and that I could still pass for 25. Who knows if this is true or not but it gets me through the day. Since I am only 35 I am NOT going to think about botox or any kind of procedures (I’ll leave that for my 40’s) I wish I had done more in my 20’s for my skin…but I guess it’s never too late to start.
Aging really isn’t something to fear or try and stop and Age doesn't only have to be associated with beauty. It is also about becoming more responsible with everything, most importantly the environment. This month I think I’m going to focus on getting into a skin care regimen, getting better sleep, continue my “not drinking during the week” and really think about my makeup and beauty products and their environmental impact. And I also want to look into some organic home concoctions!
I found this little quiz: Are your products killing the Planet. It posed questions that we should all really think about, especially ingredients in our products. My quiz result is below and my thoughts are in red.
http://www.totalbeauty.com/content/quizzes/q_carbon_footprint
I am a Green Beauty Goddess in Training
You've dipped your toes into some organic, cruelty-free products and are careful about recycling empty shampoo bottles -- congrats! But there's still a lot more you can do to look great while helping the environment. Here are a few suggestions:
� After using your blow-dryer or curling iron, don't just switch it off; unplug it. Appliances like these use energy whenever they're plugged in so you'll save resources (and money) by putting them away. (Think how much neater the bathroom counter will look.) I actually do unplug it after I finish drying my hair because with naturally curly hair, there isn’t much that I do to my hair. I pretty much Blow and Go!
� Try out organic beauty products. Certified organic products don't use pesticides when grown, have fewer untested chemicals as ingredients and are less toxic to throw away (meaning less planet-harming chemicals running into groundwater). Plenty of brands like Origins and Physicians Formula carry certified organic lines with products that work just as well as their non-organic counterparts. I usually stay away from pricey brands of make-up…but since I don’t really use a lot of it I think that this month I will look into investing in these organic brands. They are probably better for your skin anyway.
� Try to cut back on the amount of disposable products you use. For a way to really cut down on waste, try the
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
The "Consult"
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
The Good and the Bad...
Now on to Aging…hmmm…this is a hard one for me. I hate to admit it, but I might be the baby on this blog and as still under 30 (for a few more years at least) I am not really feeling the effects of aging. Sure, I get hangovers sometimes, but never too awful that I don’t want to drink. I can’t stay out until 3 am and then go to work at 8, but I don’t want to anyways. I have always had bags under my eyes, nothing new there. So I guess instead of focusing on the physical for aging, I thought I could focus on the mental and spiritual. You know, how can I be more mature, more professional, take myself more seriously. But really, that is boring and I am not sure I want to be more mature, professional or serious. So I guess I will be looking for inspiration this month and hopefully my next post will be more productive, as this one is not, sorry.
Just Add Corn Dogs
I'm Too Young To Be This Old!
Monday, March 1, 2010
Happy Birthday to Me (late 30's here I come)!
love in a month
Love, Me
Another thing that happened this month and gave me some new perspective is through the unfortunate loss of an Uncle, the family that I’ve not been in touch with since my (2nd) Dad passed away 3 years ago was reunited and it’s like we never were apart. What got me the most was this: though my Aunt and Uncle were older, they were high school sweethearts and they still lived with one another. Over the past years, his health had declined and her mental capacity had declined as well. When he passed away last weekend, she didn’t even know he had died, because she hadn’t known they were even in the same room, in the same home or even eating at the same table for quite a while. He was just a new face every evening when they sat down. Since she was unable to attend the funeral, they read one of many love letters she had written to him over the years as her part of the eulogy. Their daughter said that her Dad had saved all of them, because he knew that love for him was still inside of her and that he would read them from time to time. Man…that hit me so hard. Even if we get too busy to say it every day, I feel it and the people that I love deserve to know it. So, Shelly…thank you for posting the link on how to write a love letter before Valentine’s Day, because for the first time in my life, I wrote one to my husband. He cried when he read it. And hopefully, we won’t ever be sitting at the dinner table together and not recognize one another, but if so, he can pull out that letter and know that even though I wrote it years before, that very love is still inside of me.
MARCH: AGING
I know that the key to feeling young physically is exercise. So beginning today I am moving it up on my list of priorities. Luckily I have a wedding and honeymoon to motivate me if "feeling young" isn't working. Yesterday, I also started drinking Aloe Vera gel again. I drank it consistently during my detox month and I noticed a significant improvement in the suppleness of my skin. I don't know why I stopped drinking it but I have noticed the effect it has had on my skin so it is back into my morning ritual. Also, Wednesday, I have an appointment with Westlake Dermatology for a free consult. I recently met someone who I would have sworn was in her early 30's. I later found out she was 45 so I asked her the secret and she owed it all to Westlake Dermatology. I am not certain that I am going to get anything done (ie peels or microderm) but I am really interested to hear what they suggest. The one skin issue I have that I have tried multiple products to get rid of are my sun spots. They have definetly faded due to the use of Retinol but I still notice them so I want to find out some other options to eliminate the evil spots. I have been a product junkie since I was in my mid-20s. Due to this and my good genes, I feel like my skin is in much better shape than it should be, and I am thankful for this. But you can't hold off the aging process forever, so it is now the time to find the right balance of life changes and products to at least slow the process down.
...LOVE...
I really let the ball drop last month when it came to my goals. Not a lot of premarital education going on on my part. I have been so busy trying to plan this wedding in a very short amount of time, that I have let a lot of things get pushed aside, and this blog was one of them. But the only one really getting hurt by that is me. Anyway, a couple of days ago I was driving on the interestate and saw a billboard for this: Twogether in Texas
Texas now offers free marriage education classes around the state. Couples who complete a class will save $60 on their marriage license. The classes are at least 8 hours long and focus on helping couples develop communication and conflict resolution skills and other tools for a strong relationship. I LOVE the idea of this and I am hoping I can talk B into taking a class with me.
I know that even though the month is over, my education is not. Loving someone is different than loving your life together, and the latter takes work and communication. I have been blessed with this amazing man and we have a very special relationship with a great foundation to begin our lives together. I know that we will have moments of agreement and we will have moments of distance, but what gives us our strength, is that no matter what we always come back to eachother. I guess that is a pretty good start...
Friday, February 26, 2010
LOVE is a precious thing
Some of us may have a perfect loving marriage…some of us may struggle with anger issues or infidelity issues…some of us may not have found “the one” yet…some us may not know how to commit or want to commit. Whatever the case may be – we weren’t promised that LOVE would be easy…it’s a journey that hopefully will lead to 10, 20, or 30 years of a fun-filled ride.
This blog is supposed to create change in our lives. Not just for the month but a change that will continue throughout the years. From now on, I want to make sure that I show my husband, family, and friends that I love them. I want them to KNOW…without a doubt…that they mean the world to me. Because let me tell ya – life is way too short. When I’m gone I don’t want them to wonder about anything.
I squeezed my honey extra hard last night. I hope you all will do the same.